Listening Skills Professionals Listen Empathically -2

Listening Skills Professional -2

This page, page 2, of this three-page website on listening skills professionals contains the following sections:

Listening Skills Professionals Maintain Well-Being
The Need to be Listened to Empathically
Links to the Table of Contents for this Entire Website
Links to Some of My Other Websites on Empathy and Listening Skills

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Here are examples of a low-level-emotional-distress situation and one in which there is no distress. The people in both situations might benefit more from talking to a listening skills professional than from talking to a friend or family member.

Robert, 29, is friendly, considerate, hardworking, emotionally attached to his family, and has many friends. He is the vice president of a small company and recently was offered an executive position with a large, established company located in a major city 2,500 miles away. The new job would provide him with a more stimulating work environment and enable him to earn 50 percent more money. What also excites him about the job is the possibility for advancement, which is almost non-existent with his present company.
If he relocated, it would, however, upset his fiance, mother, father, brother, sister, paternal grandfather, maternal grandmother, niece, and two nephews, all of whom have always lived in the same city. One of his parents basic values is that family ties are more important than income considerations and job responsibilities. He knows that his fiance would resist moving 2,500 miles away from her family and friends.
Wrestling with the decision about whether to accept the job is difficult but he is reluctant to discuss it with his loved ones because he knows it would upset them and that they would probably discourage him from accepting. He believes that writing down the advantages and disadvantages of the new job would not be enough. He needs to talk to someone about the decision--to "think out loud" in order to clarify his thinking.
He decides to consult a listening skills professional because the professional would not advise him as to what to do and would be emotionally neutral. Also, if he decides not to accept the job, he would have spared his loved ones from becoming upset.
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Jennifer, 38, is a never-been-married, cheerful person who is contented with her job as a supermarket checkout person, with being single, and with her relationships with her parents, three brothers, and friends. Her friends find her to be a good listener when they tell her about their experiences and troubles but she never shares her feelings and thoughts with them. She gradually became a very private person because she has always been sensitive to the slightest disapproval of something about herself which she might tell another person.
After a consultation with a gynecologist about her long-standing menstrual problem, she felt hopeful and grateful that she had finally found a physician who was a true expert about her problem. Four previous gynecologists had not been able to help her.
When she left the fifth gynecologist's office, she was vibrating with joy. She needed to talk about these feelings and the importance of the consultation to her. She called a listening skills professional and made an appointment.
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The Need to be Listened to Empathically oooooooo

We all agree that people that people have a need to be treated with respect and to be loved. Much less recognized, in my opinion, is the need to be listened to empathically.

If this need is continually frustrated, I believe it may gradually erode a person's psychological well-being and sometimes her or his physical well-being.

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More Information: If you want examples of using empathy and listening skills, visit one or more of my websites described at the bottom of this page. They also explain the benefits of being listened to empathically.

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Some of My Other Websites on Empathy and Listening Skills

Empathy, Listening Skills, and Relationships is a six-page website which includes information about the use of empathy and listening skills to foster good relationships, emotional intimacy, and happy marriages.

Empathy, Listening Skills, and Intimacy is an expanded version of the six-page website.

Listening Skills and Relationships is a discussion board which includes messages from me and my responses to messages from others. To read or post messages, you do not have to register. Visit the board to read questions and answers, ask or answer questions, share experiences, etc.

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